Monday, February 23, 2009

A rose by any other name...

"What's in a name? That which we call a rose
By any other name would smell as sweet."

I've been trying to avoid blogging about this particular issue for a while now. One, I think that it doesn't matter how I try to explain it, it's still not going to make sense to anyone but The Editor and me, and two - well because I don't really want it to be this way. But it seems the universe has decided it's time to suck it up and get to writing so here goes...

I got this friend request on Myspace today - this is a picture of the screen I took with my phone - and yes it is real.

Aside from the terrible spelling and the fact that well - the guy is just not my type, the main thing some of you may find wrong with this picture is the part that says (or attempts to say) 'I am single too'. This would be wrong because for ol' Zachary there to be single too, it would seemingly insinuate that I am single as well, and if you've been keeping up with my life as of late you'd know that wasn't true.

Or is it?

Talking to someone, dating, seeing each other, exclusive, boyfriend & girlfriend...

These are all labels applied to the process that is starting and or being in a relationship. From the sound of how things are between The Editor and I, it would be a natural progression to assume that I would fall into one of the last three categories.

So why would this guy think I was single?

Most likely because my Myspace profile says I am, as does my Facebook.

Why, if I am in such a wonderful loving relationship with an incredible guy who treats me better than I ever imagined possible would I not say so? Why would I not go into my account settings and click the little box that says 'in a relationship' instead of leaving the box that says single checked? Why wouldn't Matthew do the same?

Because although for all intents, purposes and appearances what The Editor and I have is a loving committed relationship we are in fact not 'together'.

We aren't seeing anyone else, he stays the night, has a key to my place, we call each other baby and honey, he throws my clothes in with his when he does his laundry at my place on our regularly scheduled dinner and movie night, we love each other (love, not IN love) and if asked out or approached by someone both he and I will say that we are talking to or seeing someone, but we are not 'boyfriend & girlfriend', we are not a 'couple'.


The why is another post for another day, but I will at least give you this much, there are circumstances and future events to come that have led us both to believe that allowing ourselves to just fall willy nilly head over heels in love with each other would not be the best thing for either of us. But we do have 'romantic feelings' for one another, we do care for each other, we do in fact love one another very much, so why not just be together? Again.. another post for another day.

But as Juliet said...

"What's in a name? That which we call a rose
By any other name would smell as sweet."

So seeing each other, dating, in a relationship, boyfriend & girlfriend... regardless of the label attached to what we have, he and I both know it is very special.. and very very real.

0 People who coughed on a furball: